Dear God,
If you could just please, just let me find the man of my dreams. Help him to cross my path. Help me not to make a fool of myself or do or say something wrong. Help me to be what he is looking for. Lord I have a desire for marriage. I have a desire for children. I want to be a wife and a mother someday. Lord help me to find the man who can walk beside me and be my husband, who will be my other half, and help me grow in my relationship with you. Lord bring a godly man into my life so that I can begin to live the life I know you have created for me. Lord if you could do that please?
~Amen
I don't think any of us want to admit it, but I think as women at some point in our lives we have all prayed this kind of prayer. There is nothing at all wrong for praying for the Lord to bring a godly man into your life, but scripture says some very specific things about prayer, and if you truly believe the word of God it should change the way you think and pray about your future marriage.
But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is
like a
wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.
James 1:6
If you are praying for a godly husband and a godly marriage, you must believe and not doubt that the Lord has placed those desires on your heart. If you truly believe this then you must also truly believe that there is ONE man out there that is your future husband. When you begin to see this dating and relationships in this light it makes you realize that every other man out there that is not that ONE man is not your future husband and it should make you much more intentional about how you treat the men in your life. If they are not your future husband they are more than likely another woman's future husband. Just in the way that you would want women to respect your future marriage and the man you will one day share your life with, I truly believe we as women should respect and protect those who will share their lives with.
When we realize the Lord has someone specific out there for us, it should change the way we pray for him. Instead of praying only that the Lord would bring him to us we should be praying for Him, his relationship with the Lord, and that he would be growing into the godly husband the Lord has placed the desire in your heart to want.
When you shift your focus from God bringing him to you to God growing him into a godly man you shift your focus off of yourself and your needs to him and his character. Most women who desire a godly marriage deep down want to be pursued, loved, cherished, and lead by a Godly man. We as Christian women have a unique opportunity to believe the lord and to love a man who is real in the eyes of God but may not have crossed our path yet. What if you poured as much energy into praying for the godly character of your future husband as you do searching for a boyfriend? What if you spent time studying what godly character to pray for not only for him but for yourself? How much do you think the Lord would change your heart about what you desire prepare you to be the godly woman and wife this man needs.
So many times we rush into the wrong relationships and are brokenhearted when the man does not meet the expectations we have in our minds. It is because he is not the man God has inteneded for you. Step back pray for your future husband, for him, not for him to apear, and pray for God to make it clear to you when he comes into your lfie. I dont believe that this means you cant meet people and make friends, but I do believe it changes the way you will see the men that cross your path. It will allow you to see them as brothers in Christ and not see every one of them as a potential husband. I truly believe that as you pray God will shape your desires to be in line with his will, and it will be clear when he sends the right man into your life.
I am preaching to the choir on with this blog post. How many of you will join me for the next 30 days to pray specifically for your future husbands, (even if you have never met them) for their walk with the Lord, for their character, for their heart for ministry, for their families, and for their purity and strength with struggles. I am praying as i write this that as we take this journey together, that the Lord would not only work in the lives of the men we will one day share our lives and build families with, but that he would change our own hearts and allow us to become more Christlike and mold us into the wives of noble that he desires for us to be.
Everyday for the next 40 days, I will be posting specific prayers to the blog to help you as you begin to pray for the man God has for you. These are also wonderful prayers for any woman to pray, single, dating, engaged, or married, all men in our lives deserve to have these things prayed over them.
A wife of noble character, who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good not harm all the days of her life....
Proverbs 31: 10-12
Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her work bring her praise at the city gates.
Proverbs 31: 30-31
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